Emotional Connection: Families With Challenging Children
Family Dreams or Nightmares?
What are your dreams for your children and family life? The tender togetherness, love, joy, and fun times you fondly envisioned are there in your mind’s eye; seeing your children grow up knowing they are loved, having a sense of connection, and joining in regular celebrations for achievements. Is this your reality? Congratulations; you are a lucky parent!!
A Different Reality
For the rest of us who wake up in the morning exhausted, wondering how to make it through another day with our kids, reality is quite different. We had dreams too as we gazed into the innocent eyes of our newborn, or the hope we held close even as we looked at the blank stare or depths of pain we saw in our older adopted or foster child, or a traumatized child of our own. We just knew that our love would overcome their early experiences.
But somewhere something went terribly wrong. Our love and vow to be a great parent apparently was not enough. Our experience is quite different than our dreams. We feel alone, in despair, seeking advice over and over again, hearing conflicting guidance, being encouraged by professionals to drug our kids with strong psycho-trophic drugs, with known and unknown dangers. We often fear for our home as well as our health. We can’t have babysitters, our own parents or our friends may not be able to handle our kids and often don’t want to. We may be a single parent without even the aid of a partner. We have to show up at the principal’s office all too often, and may have to seek new day care and schools or new teachers each year. Our kids may have been labeled Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) Bipolar Disorder, Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), Asperger’s Syndrome, or other diagnostic anomaly.
As we experience discouragement and failure, we may not even like ourselves anymore, as we lose our temper again, do things we thought we would never do as a parent, feel guilt and remorse even as we rage in despair. Our whole self-image of who we are may be called in question as we struggle to cope. Is any of this familiar? Then hear this…you are not alone and you’re not crazy-but your life is.
What Can Be...
At Vibrance, we know there is a way to find real and lasting solutions. You can have a loving family and feel joy in your experiences with your challenging child. Having these children is challenging, can be exhilarating, and is worth every investment and learning opportunity!
Are you ready to change your life? If love alone is not enough, you, as a parent must create loved-based changes that make a difference. We know that you deserve a vibrant life with your kids. But it takes commitment, investment, determination and unconditional unwavering love. Are you ready to meet the challenge? To see real change that has lasting life long benefits not only for your child, but also for you?
What Happens At Vibrance
At Vibrance Institute we specialize in personal, relationship and family coaching and experiential seminars designed to create effective communication and peaceful relations within families with challenging children. Our goals are for long-term change and lasting solutions. We work on healing relationships and creating effective interactions among all members of the family.
Why are we doing this and why are we confident? Because we understand what is happening in your life. We have been there too and it is our own experiences that led to the creation of the Vibrance Institute. We believe in you and we believe in your child and know that each child and parent deserves a vibrant life with peace and love in the family. It is our passion and personal experience coupled with professional coaching and experiential training that sets us apart from programs offering parenting classes. We know what you face, and we know it can change. This is not about knowing what to do; it is about opening up to a new state of being that serves you and your child.
Our family and relationship coaching and personal development experiential trainings and services get to the underlying issues that drive our attitudes, beliefs and assumptions as well as our behavior and that of our children. We understand the neurobiology behind early childhood trauma that sets the course on which your challenging child likely travels. We offer real world solutions for creating something different. Join us on the healing pathway.